The Verbal and Emotional Abuser

Recognizing the Verbal Abusive Relationship and How to Defend Yourself


Author: Michele Gilbert

Publisher: CreateSpace

ISBN: 9781511977296


Page: 26

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Have You Had Enough? Are You Mad Enough? You Do Not Deserve This Abuse So what can you do? In this book are strategies for understanding and identifying abusive individuals. Being able to understand abusive behavior and identify its first stage, verbal abuse, is the key to freeing yourself from the grasp of an abusive person. By identifying verbal abuse as it occurs, you can possibly avert the chance of verbal abuse escalating into physical abuse. To begin to understand abuse, you must understand why people become abusive Secondly, you must learn the consequences of abuse. Thirdly, you will learn what forms verbal abuse takes within the bounds of an intimate relationship. And, finally, how to manage and free yourself of the pain caused by an abuser Are you are ready to take the first steps towards freedom from verbal abuse, Then let's get started!. Gaining knowledge is an empowering experience and can lead to greater personal freedom and self-fulfillment. What You'll Learn... Understanding an Abuser The Consequences of Abuse Abuse in an Intimate Relationship Managing the Pain Would You Like To Know More? Download "The Verbal And Emotional Abuser Recognizing The Verbal Abusive Relationship And How To Defend Yourself"

A Handbook on Domestic Violence

Victim Survival Techniques


Author: Superior Court of California

Publisher: CreateSpace

ISBN: 9781499515312

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 48

View: 2464

A Handbook on Domestic Violence Victim Survival Techniques Domestic Violence is a Crime. Domestic Violence is about power and control over another person. It is not a problem with anger. Rarely do you see an abuser act violently with friends, coworkers or a boss. It is a Jeckyl and Hyde personality that confuses others who learn of a person's violence with their partners. Abusers can act charming, loving and attentive...when they want to. Drinking, drugs, genetics, the victim's behavior or stress does not cause domestic violence. It is learned behavior. It is learned in the home by observation and reinforcement before the age of 10. Domestic Violence happens in all races, religions and socio-economic groups. A relationship starts in the honeymoon phase. Over time, tension starts building. Usually when the abuser feels that the victim is sufficiently "hooked" into the relationship, either through marriage, moving in together or getting pregnant, the abuse starts. The honeymoon phase is what "hooks" the victim back into the relationship and keeps the cycle moving. Over time the cycle reduces to just tension/abuse and the episodes of violence get more frequent and severe. Victims often leave their abusers an average of five to seven times before they are able to leave permanently. The victim is in greater danger when they decide to leave. Only the victim can decide what is best for them and their children. It is important to recognize that they are the experts in their relationship, not an outsider. Never tell a victim "Just leave him/her". The victim must develop a safety plan. They will know when it will be the best time to leave. Summary Domestic violence (also domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, family violence and intimate partner violence) is a pattern of behavior which involves violence or other abuse by one person against another in a domestic context, such as in marriage or cohabitation. Intimate partner violence is domestic violence against a spouse or other intimate partner. Domestic violence can take place in heterosexual or same-sex relationships. Domestic violence can take a number of forms including physical, emotional, verbal, economic and sexual abuse, which can range from subtle, coercive forms to marital rape and to violent physical abuse that results in disfigurement or death. Globally, a wife or female partner is more commonly the victim of domestic violence, though the victim can also be the male partner, or both partners may engage in abusive or violent behavior, or the victim may act in self-defense or retaliation. Domestic violence often occurs because the perpetrator believes that abuse is justified and acceptable, and may produce intergenerational cycles of abuse that condone violence. Awareness, perception, definition and documentation of domestic violence differs widely from country to country. There may be a cycle of abuse during which tensions rise and an act of violence is committed, followed by a period of reconciliation and calm. Victims of domestic violence may be trapped in domestic violent situations through isolation, power and control, insufficient financial resources, fear, shame or to protect children. As a result of abuse, victims may experience physical disabilities, chronic health problems, mental illness, limited finances, and poor ability to create healthy relationships. Victims may experience post-traumatic stress disorder. Children who live in a household with violence show dysregulated aggression from an early age that may later contribute to continuing the legacy of abuse when they reach adulthood. Domestic violence often happens in the context of forced and child marriage.[2]